"Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for
this is right."
3:20 "Children, obey your parents in
everything, for this pleases the Lord."
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strong-willed does not have to be a negative trait! Children may
change the world—after all, it’s not likely that the world is going
to change them! You can be God’s instrument for making the world a
better place. It is a great gift to have a child with firm convictions,
a high spirit, and a sense of adventure.
- Our Children are not to be first in our list of priorities.
God is. And then, our spouse. You have must have this in
mind in order to raise your child according to God's plan.
- Pray together... Stay together!
- Loving, positive rules create emotional order.
- Recent studies are proving that laughter may positively affect
your child's health and behavior... Have fun with your kids...after
all: "The Joy of the Lord is Our Strength"
- Learn how to be a listener. Children have a strong need of
being heard. This shows them how important they are for you.
- Become a doer. Preach with your actions. Teach with
Tips on Discipline and Behavior
- Give appropriate freedom
• Set reasonable rules and limits
• Be consistent
• Be firm, but gentle
• Use your considerable power well (with time-outs and rewards,
etc., but do not use physical punishment because it teaches
aggression and makes children angrier and more defiant on the long
• Be a model of calm responses, even when you are upset
• Be a teacher -- help your children understand the lessons you
are trying to teach
• Use humor to encourage positive behavior
• Reinforce positive behavior and do not give too much attention
to negative behavior
• Be patient: sometimes it takes longer than you think it should
to teach important life lessons.
Your Child's Behavior! by: Dr. Andy Gill
In order to
understand why your child is misbehaving it is extremely useful to
keep a diary:
Identify one behavior that you
would like to change. Be as specific as you can (example: my
child wont do as s/he is told, hitting, demands things, whines.) Write
the behavior down.
Once you have a
clear picture you are ready to change the pattern by changing the
triggers and consequences. You may have to try and ignore certain behavior,
try not to give in, remove certain privileges, look and sound as if you
mean it when asking you child to do something. Most importantly
concentrate on encouraging and rewarding good behavior!
When the behavior occurs, write
down what led immediately up to it (triggers) and what happened
afterwards (consequences)? Also record how you behave and
After a week try to see if there
is a pattern to the behavior. When is it occurring (times,
situations)? Who is it occurring with? What
are the triggers? What are the consequences or
"pay-offs" for your child? Often this is related
to getting attention, "winding-up", getting their own way
("giving in for a quiet life").
Ask yourself what is my child
learning from the way I respond to the behavior? Am I setting
limits and boundaries consistently ?
For More information read our book:
"PAIDEIA: Discipline, Correction and Punishment" by
Gamboa (Special Education Teacher)