a ruler can be persuaded, and a gentle tongue can
break a bone.
The end of a matter is better than its beginning, and patience
better than pride.
Needs for kids 3-7
free homes for teens
TV shows inspire violence
Parenting Tips and
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness,
1. Have family dinners. Ask
everyone to talk about what happened during the day --
including at least one good thing. This can be small ("I didn't
have to wait for the bus; it came right away") or major ("I
got a B on my chemistry test").
2. Be health-minded. Encourage the whole family to take care of
the three basics -- eating well, sleeping enough and
3. Make laughter a priority. Watch funny TV shows and
movies together. When you hear a
joke that you like, repeat it at home.
4. Let go of negative feelings. When conflicts or bad moods seem
to get out of hand, call for a time-out. Any argument can benefit from a
walk around the block to cool off.
5. Create quiet times. No TV, no music, no computer --
just an environment conducive to meditation, reflection, reading or
rest. You may need to negotiate this with a teen who is used to
practically round-the-clock sound.
6. Practice sports. Practicing sports help family members release
stress and encourages unity.
7. Touch. Hug, kiss goodnight or at least "high five"
8. Pitch in. As a family, help one another. For example, if a
teen is struggling to complete a school project, other family members
can collate resources, staple exhibits on a display board or bring in a
9. Celebrate. Not just birthdays, but accomplishments like an
adolescent's improved report card. No gifts required. Saying
"congratulations," initiating a round of applause or writing a
note will get the point across.
10. Welcome friends. Encourage your adolescent to invite friends
over, have them stay for dinner or sleep over.
11. Inspire. Talk with your adolescent about goals, making plans
and thinking ahead. Show that you take your adolescent's goals seriously
and will do what you can to help.
12. Affirm that some stress can be healthy and yield rewards. It
is stressful to host a party, run for school office or apply for a job
when you're a high school kid with little experience. Reassure your
adolescent that in order to grow it is necessary to venture beyond the
usual, safe boundaries.
Teens, Body and Soul: A Parent's Complete Guide by Andrea Marks,
M.D. and Betty Rothbart, M.S.W. CopyrightŪ 2003 by Andrea Marks, M.D.;
Betty Rothbart, M.S.W.; and Skylight Press. Reprinted by permission of
Fireside, an imprint of Simon & Schuster, Inc., N.Y.
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